your first toy, zero stress.
Never bought a toy before? Good, this page is for you. Five minutes of reading and you'll know exactly what to pick.
1. start with what you're curious about
Ask yourself: do you want external stimulation, internal, or both? Solo or with a partner? Quiet enough for a shared flat? Your answers narrow things down fast.
2. materials matter
| material | feels like | good to know |
|---|---|---|
| Silicone | silky, smooth, slightly firm | Non-porous and easy to clean. Use water-based lube only. |
| TPE | soft, stretchy, skin-like | Slightly porous. Clean well, dry fully, and dust with powder. No oil or silicone lube. |
| Stainless steel | smooth, heavy, cool | Non-porous. Good for temperature play and can be boiled. |
| Borosilicate glass | very smooth, firm | Non-porous and temperature-safe. Check for chips before use. |
| ABS plastic | hard, smooth | Used for handles and cases. Easy to wipe clean. |
3. lube is non-negotiable
Lube makes everything more comfortable and more fun. Water-based lube is safe with every toy. Avoid silicone lube with silicone toys, and never use coconut oil, lotion or anything oily with TPE.
4. go slow
- Start on the lowest setting. You can always go up.
- Set aside time when you won't be interrupted.
- If anything hurts, stop. Pleasure shouldn't hurt.
- For anything anal: always a flared base, always lube, always slow.
5. keep it clean
Wash with warm water and mild unscented soap (or a toy cleaner) before and after every use. Let it air-dry completely before storing. Keep each toy in its own pouch.
6. with a partner? talk first.
Bringing a toy into your relationship isn't a sign something's missing. It's a sign you're both curious. Pick together, agree on what's okay and what isn't, and check in with each other.
our top 5 beginner picks
- Rose Suction Toy: the easiest place to start for vulva owners.
- Mini Wand Pocket: small, strong and inexpensive.
- Midnight Canister Stroker: the classic first stroker.
- Sync Couples Remote Vibe: the easiest couples starter.
- Rose Jewel Plug Trio: a gentle introduction to anal play.